Changes

~ Changes ~

When changes happen in our lives, what really matters is that we try our best to deal with the situation. If we make an effort towards working things out, then we give ourselves the opportunity to decide our fate and make choices about which way our futures may lead us. Being happy and content doesn't mean living in a world of perfect harmony; rather, it means that you allow yourself to flow with the music that plays in your life. Enjoy the different melodies of each unique day. Be flexible and easygoing; you'll be surprised at how much better you feel when you don't try to control everything. But also be ready to make choices and follow through on them, because they are the decisions that will influence all aspects of your life. Always remember that positive thinking allows the songs in your heart to make beautiful sounds for everyone to enjoy.

By Deanna Beisser

Good Morning

It's been such a long couple of weeks and more than anything I long for the beach! The stress is overwhelming and that mixed with very little sleep (until last night) has started to get the best of me. Last night however I was in bed by 8 pm and except for 2 short phone calls I slept until 7 this morning...and didn't want to get up then. I miss Marianne and I need pool therapy...bad! I am off to work again today and I am thinking I will try to get my land pictures taken this afternoon instead of tomorrow then I will actually have a whole day off. Maybe I will be lucky enough to catch a sunset at one of the sites...while they are NOT the ocean...something about the water is soothing to the soul. ~~Ginger~~

Your Children

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
and though they are with you, and yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love, but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward, nor tarries with yesterday.

=Kahlil Gibran


This is so very true. Beautiful Poem
=Marianne

Miracle Keys

Seven Miracle Keys for a Turnaround

1. Never complain about what you permit.
2. The problem that infuriates you the most is the problem that God has assigned you to solve.
3. Those who unlock your compassion are those to whom you are assigned.
4. The secret to your success is hidden in your daily routine.
5. What you make happen for others, God will make happen for you.
6. Your success is determined by the problems you solve.
7. When you want something you've never had, you have to do what you have never done.
When one steps out in faith to accomplish great things, one is empowered and their efforts are blessed. Not everyone is willing to persist - that's
the difference!

10 Secrets of Success & Inner Peace

TEN SECRETS OF SUCCESS & INNER PEACE

by Dr. WAYNE DYER

1. Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing.
2. Don't die with your music still in you.
3. You can't give away what you don't have.
4. Embrace Silence.
5. Give up your personal history.
6. You can't solve a problem with the same mind that created it.
7. There are no justified resentments.
8. Treat yourself as if you already are what you would like to be.
9. Treasure your Divinity.
10. Wisdom is avoiding all thoughts that weaken you.


All of these are nothing more than a conscious decision on your part
to be in charge of your thinking. Be aware at any given moment in
your life that you always have a choice about your thoughts you allow
into your mind.

The most empowering thoughts you can have are those of
PEACE, JOY, LOVE, ACCEPTANCE & WILLINGNESS.
Powerful Joyful loving thoughts stem from your willingness to allow
the world to be as it is. It is your choice.

Life is an Opportunity

Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is a beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is life, fight for it!

- Mother Teresa

Always Have A Dream

Always have a dream
Forget about the days
when its been cloudy,
but don’t forget your hours in the sun
Forget about the times
you’ve been defeated
but don’t forget the victories you’ve won
Forget about mistakes
that you cant change now
but don’t forget the lessons
that you’ve learnt
Forget about misfortunes
you encounter
but don’t forget the times
your luck has turned
Forget about the days
when you’ve been lonely
but don’t forget
the friendly smiles you’ve seen
Forget about the plans
that didn’t seem
to work out right
but don’t forget
to always have a
dream

By: Amanda Bradley

Manic Monday

It's been a long day. YUCK..I hate Mondays...well...most days actually. The store is nothing but a headache and while the real estate thing has the potential for big money...it takes time. I would really kill for a job where I punch a time clock...put in my time and be done...no worrying about anything once I am out of there. The leads are coming in for real estate..but..again..it takes time.

My lupus is kicked in big time with all the stress I have been under. I am fatigued to no end. I am scheduled to see my doctor on Wednesday...maybe he has some suggestions on how to cope..it's been so long since it's acted up. ~~Ginger~~

______________________

You Mustn't Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest! if you must - but never quit.
Life is queer, with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won if he'd stuck it out,
Stick to your task, though the pace seems slow,
You might succeed with one more blow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit.

Monday ... Beach Dreams ... Need I say more.

It's too early for this.

If you're upset by anything outside yourself, whatever it may be, that thing is not the cause of your pain. The cause of your pain is the value you choose to place on what it makes you experience -- and you have the power to change that at any moment. -- Marcus Antoninus

Ginger's Results

Part Freaky Kisser

When you kiss, you want to experience something new A new technique, a new partner, a new piercing... And your own personal kissing style is very unpredictable There's no saying where your tongue or hands will go

Part Expert Kisser

You're a kissing pro, but it's all about quality and not quantity You've perfected your kissing technique and can knock anyone's socks off And you're adaptable, giving each partner what they crave When it comes down to it, your kisses are truly unforgettable

What Kind of Kisser Are You?

Ginger's Hidden Talents

Your Hidden Talent

You have the power to persuade and influence others. You're the type of person who can turn a whole room around. The potential for great leadership is there, as long as you don't abuse it. Always remember, you have a lot more power over people than you might think!

What's Your Hidden Talent?

Gingers Bitch Test Results

I am 32% Asshole/Bitch.

I may think I am an asshole or a bitch, but the truth is I am a good person at heart. Yeah sure, I can have a mean streak in me, but most of the people I meet like me.

Take the
Asshole/Bitch Test
@ FualiDotCom

What Kind of Kisser Are You? Marianne's Results

Part Freaky Kisser

When you kiss, you want to experience something new A new technique, a new partner, a new piercing... And your own personal kissing style is very unpredictable There's no saying where your tongue or hands will go

Part Expert Kisser

You're a kissing pro, but it's all about quality and not quantity You've perfected your kissing technique and can knock anyone's socks off And you're adaptable, giving each partner what they crave When it comes down to it, your kisses are truly unforgettable

What Kind of Kisser Are You?

What's Your Hidden Talent? Marianne's Results

Your Hidden Talent

Your natural talent is interpersonal relations and dealing with people. You communicate well and are able to bring disparate groups together. Your calming presence helps everything go more smoothly. People crave your praise and complements.

What's Your Hidden Talent?

I wanna go home!

It's been a long stressful week. Not sure how many more of these I can handle or want to handle for that matter. I long for a simple life. One with lots of beach time, sunshine, sand, shells and ocean waves for a soundtrack. Instead..I am living one with no beachtime, no time to see the sunshine, the only "sand" is dirt drug in the house on peoples shoes, no shells and the soundtrack is similar to a live recording of "ozzfest". I am exhausted..and I have only been home from vacation for one month. It seems like forever. ~~Ginger~~

Happy Birthday Marianne!!!

My wish for you is health, happiness and more

beach time than your body can take!!

A Birthday - How Young are You?

This would be great to have for my birthday. Both kinds. It would fulfill all my dreams ...... The beach , the drink and the SEX ..... WOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOO !!!!!!


It's my Party and I'll Cry If I want too. Yep today is my birthday. I don't like birthdays. So I will make the best of the day. I certainly won't share my age here. It would be a perfect birthday if Ginger could celebrate with me on the beach. But that can't happen. So I will dream on this day of getting back home to Our Beach. Of frozen drinks, crashing waves, sand between our toes, pool therapy, the shower guy, driving up and down gulf blvd., Gators, John's Pass, Chunk Coffee, shopping, little lizards, tattoos, turtles, dolphins, and men. So much of the beach and we had so little time. I wanna go back home. Sink my toes in the sand and feel the gulf breeze and warm water........ Soon ... real soon Ginger we will be back where we belong.

-- Love You GINGER ... Always Marianne

Live * Love * Laugh * Enjoy life to the Fullest

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't suppose to ever let us down, probably will. You will have your heart broken, probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend and you might even fall in love with them. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing so fast, and you'll eventually lose somebody you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt, because every 60 seconds you spend angry or upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

~ Marianne

I took the Test.... I did better than I thought

I am 34% Asshole/Bitch.

I may think I am an asshole or a bitch, but the truth is I am a good person at heart. Yeah sure, I can have a mean streak in me, but most of the people I meet like me.

Take the
Asshole/Bitch Test
@ FualiDotCom

Feelings - Good or Bad

Feelings—Good or Bad

Sometimes a feeling gets to me
All I want to do is cry
Yet I don’t want to hold what I feel inside.
Days, weeks and even months passes by
I don’t know if I can hold it any longer
Am I ready to let this feeling go?
If I do will I become stronger?
I must gain the strength to be happy
To live my life so it is Simply Good
No more living in a dark damp basement
So tears fall down from my eyes so easy
Yes my heart and soul tells me to stand tall
Sometimes I feel like I should and then
Other times I feel that I shouldn’t at all
I have been in a dark damp basement filled with chaos
I know where to go but I was so lost
Do I have the strength to be strong?
Is this is the place where I belong?
Is it because this is what I fear?
The feeling that made me break down in tears?
Yes I have that internal strength
I no longer need to escape to that dark damp basement
I no longer fear for I now know
My Life Is Simply Good
Feelings will come and feelings will go
I will break down in tears
I will always be standing tall and strong
for My Life Is Simply Good.

Victoria Smith
July 9, 2005

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. -Dr. Seuss

Good Ole Mom

My Mom
My Mom taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE -
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside - I just finished cleaning!"

My Mom taught me RELIGION -
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."

My Mom taught me about TIME TRAVEL -
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!"

My Mom taught me LOGIC -
"Because I said so, that's why."

My Mom taught me FORESIGHT -
"Make sure you wear clean underwear in case you're in an accident."

My Mom taught me IRONY -
"Keep laughing and I'll give you something to cry about."

My Mom taught me about the science of OSMOSIS -
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper!"

My Mom taught me about CONTORTIONISM -
"Will you look at the dirt on the back of your neck!"

My Mom taught me about STAMINA -
"You'll sit there 'til all that spinach is finished."

My Mom taught me about WEATHER -
"It looks as if a tornado swept through your room."

My Mom taught me how to solve PHYSICS PROBLEMS -
"If I yelled because I saw a meteor coming toward you, would you listen then?"

My Mom taught me about HYPOCRISY -
"If I've told you once, I've told you a million times - Don't Exaggerate!!!"

My Mom taught me THE CIRCLE OF LIFE -
"I brought you into this world and I can take you out."

My Mom taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION -
"Stop acting like your father!"

My Mom taught me about ENVY -
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you do!"

Ever have one of "those" days

I need to go home. I am tired of all the shit I am dealing with here on a daily basis....how appropriate it is that todays OM is "Putting Youself First". That is something I have NEVER done...it's hard for me...too hard most days...I don't even have the strength to fight for it. But I have to do something. Because I don't want to go on living like this. Every last one of them thinks the world revolves around them and I need to accomodate their needs. How in the hell did things get so out of hand...why is it when you try to be nice to people they push you until you can't take it one second more...before you know it, you're sitting in a cemetary (after driving and crying for over an hour)...wondering where the hell you got off track. When people go out of their way to help me...I appreciate it...I DO NOT expect to keep getting more and more...who the hell do these people think they are. ~~Ginger~~

Ten Truths to Transform Your Life

1. Gratitude is the most transformative force in the cosmos, because gratitude is love. Sarah says, "When our hearts our broken, we don't think we have much to be thankful for. We don't have to be smiling when we say 'Thank you.'"

2. Your happiness increases the happiness of everyone who knows you. "We have so much. All we have is all we need. All we need is the awareness of how blessed we really are."

3. Whether we live passionately or not is a choice we make. When writers write, the most important emotion is conveyed between the lines. "I want to live in between the lines, where the depth is."

4. Those who live passionately teach us how to love. Those who love passionately teach us how to live.

5. Big changes come with small choices. "Little changes [and] little choices add up to be revolutionary changes in your life."

6. The more risks you take, the luckier you become.

7. Nothing hurts you more than your expectations. "If you trust life and learn to embrace it and try not to control everything, then life can be more wondrous than you thought it would be."

8. Our relationships with others are only as emotionally healthy, happy, holy and content as our relationships with ourselves.

9. The only wound your soul never recovers from is regret. "What I know for sure is that we don't have the luxury of regret any more. The past only asks to be remembered."

10. Cherish each morning and give thanks for each evening. "I think the greatest gift September 11 can give us would be that we learn to cherish our imperfect lives."

" When You Rise In The Morning "

Lessons From An Oyster

Lessons from an Oyster:

There once was an oyster whose story I tell, Who found that some sand had got into his shell. It was only a grain,but it gave him great pain. For oysters have feelings although they're so plain. Now, did he berate the harsh workings of fate that had brought him to such a deplorable state? Did he curse at the government, Cry for election, And claim that the sea should have given him protection? 'No,' he said to himself as he lay on a shell, since I cannot remove it, I shall try to improve it. Now the years have rolled around, as the years always do, And he came to his ultimate Destiny stew. And the small grain of sand that had bothered him so was a beautiful pearl all richly aglow. Now the tale has a moral, for isn't it grand What an oyster can do with a morsel of sand? What couldn't we do If we'd only begin with some of the things that get under our skin.

I Need A Place ....

I need a place where I can go... Where I can whisper what I know... Where I can make my plans ... And write them down so I can read them... A Place where I can bid my heart be still ... And it will mind me... A Place where I can go when I am lost... And there I will find me... I need a place to spend the day... Where no one says to go or stay... Where I can take my pen and Draw the girl I mean to be. ---- Lyrics by Marsha Norman

You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips....Oliver Goldsmith

So many people talk the talk...so few walk the walk. So often I get caught up in talking...spend so much time planning what I want to do that I don't just do it! I am somewhat of a perfectionist (ok ok...anal...at least that's what my family calls it). I know what I want...and I have spent so much of my life settling for what I get. My life hasn't matched my words.

My whole life I have wanted more from my life than what small town northern Wisconsin has to offer. I have dreams of a place where my day starts with a walk on the beach and ends with a circle of friends at the same beach. The perfect job would be to own (or just run) a coffee shop/bookstore on that beach. Day after day meeting new people, from all walks of life..that have had the same dream..wishing they were in my shoes. I want to be the one living it..not dreaming it. It seems so far away.

My entire life has been spent doing what needs to be done to get through the day...putting out fires...making other peoples lives better. Everyone thinks I have it so together..."how can you be unhappy..you own your own business..that is everyones dream?". While the business I own has allowed me the freedom (for the most part) that I love...it is a constant internal struggle. I wonder day after day when it's all going to come crashing down around me. I feel like I am faking my way through this and at any moment someone is going to come in and say YOU ARE BUSTED.

My childhood was horrible...but I have made peace with it and grown because of it so, while I may refer to it in the future, it is my past and I am in control of what my life becomes and I REFUSE to let that childhood taint what I may become.

I had my son when I was 19, married his father when I was 20, my daughter was born when I was 22. I was married for 14 years. Maybe it was because I didn't know any better but the first 9 years were great. Then we sold the home I loved, moved in for "just a short time" with his mother (this short time ended up to be 18 months) so we could make plans for building our dream home. After 18 months I couldn't take it anymore and we had to move out..so our dream home became a 3 bedroom mobile home (which was nice...don't get me wrong...I have nothing against mobile homes). The problem came when my then husband couldn't get back into the role of husband and father...he enjoyed having his mother around too much. The rest of our marriage was spent trying to get back what we had...but I couldn't do it alone and I was DYING inside so I had to go. He went away for work for a week and I got an apartment and the kids and I moved out. I met him at the house the day he came home from his trip and told him. It wasn't the first time he heard that it was going to happen...he had been given plenty of warnings and choose not to change things.

Then onto a new chapter in my life. After a time the wild side of me came out and all hell broke loose. I'm over that now. It was a time full of experiences but not something I would want to do again. Maybe someday...I will share some of it. But..it's dark...NO drugs...very very little drinking...but it is dark.

I am back on track now and trying to build a life for myself. My son is 19, my daughter is 17, she will graduate in May and then I am back on my own. It's time to plan the next phase of my life. No more talking the talk...I have to get my act together and walk the walk.

~~Ginger~~

Some Beach

We have been great friends for a long time. We have seen each other through good and bad times. So much alike that it is scary sometimes. Marianne is my sister..no matter what our DNA might have to say about it. A tropical vacation is something we have talked about for sooo long and this year it FINALLY happened. Hours of walking along the most beautiful beaches in Florida. Hours of pool time, solving the problems of the world. It was a better experience than either of us had hoped for and we cannot wait to go back!!! http://www.gulftowers.com/BeachCam.htm Here you will find OUR coast of somewhere beautiful. We spend as much time as we can focusing on getting back where we belong. Where our hearts are...we focus on getting HOME. ~~Ginger~~

In the Beginning

This is our beginning. Ginger and I have decided to share with you our lives, our hopes and dreams of getting back to our place of destiny. THE BEACH. You see after spending so long on the Island we came to love the beach. Civilization is just not cutting it for us. We need to get back to sand, surf, sex, and fun. She is up there in the frozen tundra and I am stranded down here in the cornfields. No one understands just how much we hate our lives here. We are going to share with you some of our day to day trials away from the beautiful ocean and the sandy beaches and the night life that goes on and on. The Midwest truly sucks. We want OUR LIVES BACK. Stick around and hear the tales of two bored Midwest Babes trying to find their way back to Paradise. We just need two tickets.....